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News Letter #8

What Am I Supposed To Learn From This Experience?

24th October, 2007

What do you do when someone takes an action that literally turns your world upside down? After the initial anger and hurt somewhat subsides, have you thought about being truthful to yourself and ask the bigger question, “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?”

I know it is so much easier to try to make the other person hurt just as much as you hurt at the moment, but – just maybe – aren’t you really just running from the experience? To even contemplate what I am speaking about you have to take ownership of the reality that you – and you alone – put together the scenarios that you currently are experiencing or will experience in your lifetime. The person who instigates the action, no matter how cruel the action appears to be, may in fact be your best friend in the world of Spirit. When YOU chose this lesson to experience before you were born, this individual raised their hand and committed to step forward in the experience with you.

Now, they have lessons centered around the experience also, but you both get to determine the extent of the experience based on your actions going forward. And yes, there will be others that will be drawn into the experience with you because they also have chosen to be involved in this learning experience. But everyone’s actions determine the depths of the experience.

If your emotional hurt drives you to attempt to destroy the other individual, then the carnage inflicted on that individual and all those involved will cut much deeper. Emotions really mask the question of, “What am I supposed to be learning from this situation?” Raw emotions that are encouraged by individuals close to you, while well intentioned, actually add energy to the situation that masks the real experience. In the end, your emotions or those of others lead you away from taking responsibility for your life.

No matter how painful the experience, only when you move forward out of the emotions of the experience can you see the next step the universe is bringing your way. Only when you realize that there are no accidents can you easily move forward and truly experience what the universe has in-store for you. The choice is yours as always, you can stay stuck in the emotions of hurt and revenge, or move forward through the situation – no matter how painful – and flourish.

Alan McElroy.